"The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:11-12
The NIV version puts it like this, "Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life."
As we continue on with our study of the Proverbs 31 woman, the word "heart" in verse 11 refers to "the feelings, the will and the intellect; the center of anything." According to verse 11, her husband values her more than anything. She is priceless to him and he has full confidence in her and her abilities. He "lacks nothing of value" because she is the most precious thing he has. What a wonderful thing! Do we, as wives, have the full confidence of our husband? Or do our actions make him question our "value" to him?
According to verse 12, she "brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." Our words can cause more harm to others than actions alone. Can our husbands trust us or do we go and blab the most intimate details of our marriage and our relationship to our husband with others? Do we bad mouth him whenever we get a chance and constantly complain about his shortcomings? I realize that there are times when events and circumstances may cause an upheaval in our lives and put a strain on our relationships and our marriage. In those instances, we need to confide in someone and seek counsel as to what to properly do, but be careful who you entrust with this information! I cannot stress this enough! (Do not seek the advice of a busybody who spreads gossip or someone who is a constant complainer or is never happy in their own marriage! Misery loves company!!)
It may seem like this woman was the epitome of "the perfect wife," but I am sure she struggled. She probably didn't like it when he tracked his muddy sandals through the house. Or, maybe he didn't pick up his dirty dishes after she slaved all day over a hot fire, trying to make dinner for him. She didn't always have kind thoughts for him and felt like lashing out. But she strove to do her best and left an example for others to follow.
Remember, we are all "works in progress." It wasn't overnight that this lady became the perfect wife and mother, but she has given us a blue print to follow.
Until next time, God bless!