Proverbs 31 Woman

As promised, I want to begin sharing my study of the Proverbs 31 woman.  I would like to take each verse and study it in depth, instead of throwing everything out there at once.  We will begin at verse 10 and work our way through 31.  Though the identity of who King Lemuel was is unknown (some believe it may be a pen name for King Solomon),  I do find it interesting, however, to note that it was King Lemuel's mother that imparted her wisdom to her son.  "The words of king Lemuel , the prophecy that his mother taught him." (Proverbs 31:1)  I believe that she probably prayed for her son and desired to see him find a good wife. Her words made an impact on him, for he wrote about it in the book of Proverbs.  (Ladies, we do influence the next generation by our actions and words.  Our children are listening and watching! Be careful what you say and do.)


"Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies." Proverbs 31:10

When we hear the word "virtuous," most of us think of "virtue" or chaste.  We have this image of a meek woman who walks around in the shadow of her husband, never arguing or disagreeing.  She speaks with a soft voice and is very demure.  However, the word "virtuous," in this verse, comes from the Hebrew word chayil, meaning "a force, whether of men, means or other resources; an army, wealth, valor, strength; able, activity, army, band of men (soldiers), company, (great) forces, goods, host, might, power, riches, strength, strong, substance, train, valiant (ly), valour, virtous(ly), war, worthy(ily)."

In other words, "Who can find a strong, able, mighty woman of substance ? for her price is far above rubies?"  She was a force to be reckoned with!!  She was a woman who took her calling as a wife and mother very seriously!  This lady was not lazy, either.  She was strong and able!  Strong and able to do what?  She kept her home in order.  She used the resources that were available to nurture her children and be a help meet for her husband.  I believe, too, that when this woman prayed, she prayed with a loud voice and made her requests known.  "Defeat" was not in her vocabulary.

According to Strong's Exhaustive Concordance of the Bible, "rubies" were the same as pearls.  Both are costly gems!  According to some experts, pearls are worth more than diamonds in today's market!  A virtuous woman, according to Proverbs 31:10, is more valuable than rubies and pearls!!

We may not have wealth, fancy houses or cars, ladies, but our actions and example will far outweigh material possessions any day!  This generation needs strong women who will fight for our homes, our children, and our husbands!  To those of you who are single or have no children, this generation needs you!! We need your example of a lady who puts her Lord first and who waits on Him! We need you to show the next generation that what God desires for your life is more important than what you desire and that He will give you the best in due season!!

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"The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life."  Proverbs 31:11-12

The NIV version puts it like this, "Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.  She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life."

As we continue on with our study of the Proverbs 31 woman, the word "heart" in verse 11 refers to "the feelings, the will and the intellect; the center of anything."  According to verse 11, her husband values her more than anything.  She is priceless to him and he has full confidence in her and her abilities.  He "lacks nothing of value" because she is the most precious thing he has.  What a wonderful thing!  Do we, as wives, have the full confidence of our husband? Or do our actions make him question our "value" to him?

According to verse 12, she "brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life."  Our words can cause more harm to others than actions alone.  Can our husbands trust us or do we go and blab the most intimate details of our marriage and our relationship to our husband with others?  Do we bad mouth him whenever we get a chance and constantly complain about his shortcomings?  I realize that there are times when events and circumstances may cause an upheaval in our lives and put a strain on our relationships and our marriage.  In those instances,  we need to confide in someone and seek counsel as to what to properly do, but be careful who you entrust with this information!  I cannot stress this enough! (Do not seek the advice of a busybody who spreads gossip or someone who is a constant complainer or is never happy in their own marriage! Misery loves company!!)

It may seem like this woman was the epitome of "the perfect wife," but I am sure she struggled.  She probably didn't like it when he tracked his muddy sandals through the house.  Or, maybe he didn't pick up his dirty dishes after she slaved all day over a hot fire, trying to make dinner for him.  She didn't always have kind thoughts for him and felt like lashing out.  But she strove to do her best and left an example for others to follow.

Remember, we are all "works in progress."  It wasn't overnight that this lady became the perfect wife and mother, but she has given us a blue print to follow.


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"She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands." Proverbs 31:13

To continue our study of the Proverbs 31 woman, let's look at what wool and flax are. Wool, obviously, comes from sheep and is used for clothing, bed coverings, and other household linens. Flax is used to make linen, and is used for basically the same thing. The New English Translation reads this way, "She obtains wool and flax, and she is pleased to work with her hands."

We have to assume that this godly lady went and searched for these materials to clothe her family and to utilize them in her home.  It would take work on her part to do this.  Notice the second part of this verse, though, "She is pleased to work with her hands."  This makes me believe that, even though the work was hard, she didn't complain or do it with drudgery.  We need not be ashamed to do what the Lord has called us to do!  In this world of "career women,"  those who choose to stay out of the work force are often criticized and mistaken for being "lazy."  I can honestly say that I work harder being home with my children than I did when I worked a 40 hour work week. (For those who have already taken offense, I am NOT putting down women who have careers outside the home or who have to work because of financial situations.  As long as we can balance our families with work, I believe the choice is up to the individual as to what they decide. I actually liked working, so it was harder for me to give up my job when we moved.)

As women, the work around the house and the scheduling and planning has to be done by us.  We take the children to the doctor appointments, the dentist appointments, school activities, extracurricular activities, etc. We cook and clean and do laundry.  Some of us, myself included, even mow the lawn and take the trash out. We have to pack for vacations and trips.  (No, my husband is not lazy.  His job requires long hours, therefore, I pick up the slack at home.)  We get tired, moody, and grumpy.  (I do this quite often!)  However, we need to realize that we are the "keepers of the home" (Titus 2:5) and God has put a great responsibility on our shoulders, though it may not seem like it now.

Just know that what we are doing is important.  Our homes run smoother and we bring a security to the home that only we can do. We are providing for our husbands and children in the way God intended and we need to do so with a contented heart. Remember, "I can do all things through Christ who strengtheneth me." Philippians 4:13

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"She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar." Proverbs 31:14

In continuing my study of the Proverbs 31 woman, I am amazed at this lady and how resourceful she seems. Merchant ships traveled to several different countries, picking up their goods and bringing them back home. The journey took several days and was very tiresome to those on board, yet, they searched for only the finest goods. This lady is compared to those ships, wanting only the best for her family and going out of her way to provide that.

Ladies, we all want only the best for our families and we will do anything to get it. Sometimes, however, it gets tiresome, but we go out of our way to please our husband and children, or those closest to us. We grocery shop, using our coupons to try and find the bargains, not only to save money, but to be able to cook nutritious meals. Our children outgrow clothes quickly, therefore, we shop the department stores for the most reasonably priced clothing. We keep a clean, clutter-free home for those who live there to feel comfortable. We act as chauffeur when there are football games or doctor's appointments. It would seem as if our "journey" never ends. But this is part of what makes us the virtuous woman that we all aspire to be.

We should not begrudge having to "go the distance" for our families. It is a high-calling that God has entrusted us with. Yes, it is work. Yes, it can be monotonous sometimes. But, in the end, it will be worth it all. Our families will not only feel that we truly care about them and their well-being, but that we love them and are willing to do what it takes to make them feel that way.

Jesus is our strength and He will help us in those times that we don't feel "adequate" enough to do the work He has called us to do. So, remember, make time to rest in Him and let His "peace that passes all understanding" sweep over you and energize you for the work ahead!


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"She riseth while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens." Proverbs 31:15

Continuing my study of the Proverbs 31 woman, it surprises me how much this godly lady worked!!!  She may not have had a 9 to 5 job as some women do, but she kept her hands busy.  In the NIV Bible, this verse reads like this, "She gets up while it is still night, she provides food for her family, and portions for her female servants."  Basically, she gets up before dawn, while everyone else is asleep and prepares breakfast, then organizes her day.  But, not only does she feed her own household, she helps others in need.  (I am already feeling convicted by this woman's life!)

I realize that, as women, God has put a great responsibility on our shoulders.  We are nurturers; therefore, (duh!), we nurture!!!  It is in our nature to take care of things...children, husbands, homes, you name it, we're there to take care of it!!  We should not be lazy or slothful.  Our husbands do not want to work hard all day and come home to find an unkept house, children running around tearing things up, and then have to fend for themselves when it comes to dinner.  (On a side note: I realize that a lot of homes today have both spouses working full-time jobs.  In that case, there should be a shared responsibility of household chores.  My husband and I both worked outside the home at one point and we had to "equalize" the household duties.  It worked for us at that time.)

Ladies, we are so much more important than we realize!!  We are to be "keepers at home," according to Titus 2:5.  This does not necessarily mean you can't work in a career or a job outside the home.  In essence, we are to work when we are home and protect our families. We do this by praying for them and providing a sense of security for our children and husbands.  We can also do this even when we have to work to provide extra income for our household.

So, if you are having trouble in this area, ask God for help and then start shaking off that laziness and chaos! You will be amazed at the difference in your family!


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"She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard."  Proverbs 31: 16

When I think of the Proverbs 31 lady, I am in awe.  Sometimes, I don't like her at all!! She seems to have it all together and always makes the wisest choices.  How could I ever measure up?  When I read this verse, I cringed.  I am not a budget guru.  As a matter of fact, I'd rather spend more for convenience than shop around.  According to the verse above, this wise lady devised a plan and used her own money to plant a vineyard, which, in turn, brought her more gain!  Wow!!!  I am just not that business savvy!

However, the more I read, the more I gain a little knowledge about what this verse is really saying.  We may not all be able to go out and buy real estate that would, in turn, earn us a few extra dollars, but we can learn to start with the little things.  Do I really need that new purse or new pair of shoes?  Is it wise to go out to eat when I have plenty of food in the pantry?  I can take the money I would've spent on an unnecessary purchase and put it back into my savings.

Also, we can learn to budget our money wisely.  I have friends who stopped excess spending and devised a plan that would allow them to pay off their bills and have extra spending money.  Guess what?  They are debt free today!! For those who can't seem to pull it off, there are books and free classes offered in the local community.

As women, a lot of us (but not all of us!), have a tendency to depend on our husbands to take care of the finances.  We need to learn how to take care of the finances, as well.  Nobody can predict when sickness, job loss, or even death will occur.  It is in our best interest to know how to be good stewards of those things which God has entrusted us with, including our money.

So, instead of being jealous of this Proverbs 31 lady, let's strive to be like her, even better.  Remember, you "can do all things through Christ which strengthens you!"


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"She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms." Proverbs 31:17

As I was looking at different translations for this verse, I realized that a main theme of the Proverbs 31 woman is "work."  It seems as if the author stressed that this lady was not lazy and she worked hard to run her household.  The first part of this verse basically means that she went about her tasks vigorously and passionately.  Colossians 3:23 reads, "And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as unto the Lord, and not unto men."  This godly woman practiced this long before it was ever written! 

(Side Note: As women, most of us know that, if we get sick, usually, we keep going.  Our makeup is so different from a man's.  Our mindset is to accomplish the tasks at hand, regardless of how we feel.  We don't have time to be sick or tired. However, we can logically assume that we don't work to incapacitate us physically or mentally.  We do need rest!!  So, please realize that it is okay to take a breather once in a while.  Our time should be well-spent, but that also includes time with our children, husband, or dear ones close to us.  We only have a short time to enjoy them!  Believe it or not, we also need to make time for ourselves!)

To continue, let's look at the second part of that verse, "and strengtheneth her arms."  So, does she lift weights? No!  Because of her work ethic, she has basically put some muscle in her arms.  Apparently, that's not a bad thing.  Let's look at it this way: how many of us have had children and have had to carry them from time to time?  Or, who of us haven't gone into the grocery store, bagged a few items, and, instead of using the cart, we've carried three or four bags on our arms?  I'd bet there are quite a few of us who have done that!  Our arms have built muscle and strength just by our everyday routine.  So, it's probably safe to assume, that while physical exercise profits little spiritually (I Tim. 4:8), it is good for us...and healthy.  (Plus, we all want to look good, whether we admit it or not.  So, why not use the tasks we accomplish every day to benefit us?!)

To reiterate, let's work as if we are working unto the Lord and not unto men, with passion and vigor!  As we do, we are not only accomplishing a task, but keeping our physical bodies strong and healthy.

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"She perceiveth that her merchandise is good:  her candle goeth not out by night." Proverbs 31:18 

So far, in our study of the Proverbs 31 woman, we know one thing for sure, she was a hard worker.  This lady kept her hands busy! I often think, "How in the world did she ever get any sleep?"  In verse 18, we are again made aware of how active she really was.  

Her merchandise is good.  Basically, she understands the value of everything she does.  This wonderful woman didn't do anything aimlessly, but, rather, she crafted everything carefully and with thought. Sometimes, in our day-to-day routine, we run around in such a frantic state that we don't give thought for the details in our lives. Every once in a while, we need to stop, take a breath, and ask ourselves, "Am I giving my very best today?" Our lives become more profitable if we take the time to do our work "as unto the Lord."  I believe that the Proverbs 31 lady took her time and produced wonderful results.  

Further, the Bible tells us that she worked until the late hours of the night.  As women, we know what it's like to be so wore out but we have "one last thing to do" before bedtime.  I know that I spend my days chasing after kids, helping with homework, doing laundry, cleaning, running errands, working a part-time job, and countless other things on my "To Do" list!  It is tiresome, to say the least!  I'm sure this lady probably understood, especially since she didn't have all the gadgets and trinkets that we have today to help us with our everyday living.  For that, we should be grateful!

This lady was a great example of using our time wisely and striving to do the very best in everything we endeavor, but she had to rest sometime.  "For so he giveth his beloved sleep." (Psalm 127:2)  Don't forget to relax once in a while.  It is important that we not be lazy and sluggish, however, we need to get the proper rest to be like this exalted woman of the Bible.  

Even in my own life, I struggle to be that perfect wife, mother, friend, employee, etc., and come so short.  I do not believe that this Godly woman of  the Bible had it all together, all the time.  She made mistakes, had bad days, may have even felt like giving up.  So, don't beat yourself up when you feel like you're not measuring up to her standards or anyone else's, just do the best you can and know that God is on your side!

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"She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff."  Proverbs 31: 19

To quote a famous scene from an 80's movie, "I'm baaaack!"  We have had snow storms, sicknesses, crisis,  and other misfortunes, that have taken much of my time the past couple of months, but now I'm ready to move on and start posting again!!!  I could tell you it won't happen again, but I would just be lying.  So, let's get back to our Proverbs 31 study.  

When I read the verse above, I was befuddled.  But, the more I studied, the more it made sense to me.  As I have said before, much of this chapter in Proverbs deals with working and how this lady kept busy and used her time wisely. (Side note: I believe that most of this chapter has a lot to do with women being "keepers of the home," but, not in the traditional sense that we sometimes see it.  In Titus 2:3-5, Paul tells the older women to teach the younger women certain aspects of being good wives.  One of these aspects is to be a "keeper at home."  However, without going into a study that I hope to do in the future, the word "keeper" in the Greek meant "guardian or watcher." While her husband was off to war or military service, the lady of the house was to keep affairs in order and watch over the children.  It was a very important position that has been diminished in today's society.) Now, back to the study.

Prior to the spinning wheel or machine being invented, a spindle had tapered ends and was used to spin wool and other fibers. The distaff was the rod the thread was wound around.  Basically, the distaff had to be held in the arm or stuck in the ground while the weaver had to turn the spindle by rolling it across her thigh.  It was a very tedious chore and took great energy on the part of the person doing the spinning.  Can you imagine the time it took to spin just so you could provide for your family?  My family would probably still be wearing fig leaves if it was left up to me to make their clothing!!!

This wonderful, albeit tired, lady basically did two things at once!! (Gee, none of us ever feel that way, do we?!!)  She did not waste her time with idleness or nonsense (gossip, backbiting, etc.), but used her time wisely.  It was not just a hobby with her, either, but a necessity.  I wonder how many times we have neglected the "necessary" things for the "unnecessary?" 

I know that the Proverbs 31 lady seems to have never rested, but I believe she knew the importance of keeping busy and not having idle hands.  One of the best ways we can get distracted and allow negative thoughts to creep in is to get lazy.  We start imagining things that are not true about others, about ourselves, about situations.  It becomes a playground for the unproductive. 

Let's heed the example of this godly woman and use our time wisely.  Remember this, "Idle hands are the devil's tools."  Don't let your hands (or mouth, or body, etc.) be used for the negative, but for the positive.  We can accomplish so much more.

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"She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yeah, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy." Proverbs 31:20

My church recently started getting involved in a homeless ministry in our community.  Not only do they help the poor, but they reach out to the nursing homes and other community needs.  As I started studying this verse, it made me think of what I was actually doing to help the poor and needy.  The Proverbs 31 woman not only took care of her own household, but she reached out to the less fortunate, the ones that society ignored.

I can attest to the fact that we all have limited time and resources.  However, there is always some way that we can contribute, whether it be donating food, goods, or services, monetary donations, or even a donation of our time, as some of the members of my church have done with the homeless shelter.  Even the little things that we do for those nearest us who are in need can make a difference.  For example, if I know someone
whose children have outgrown their clothes but they just can't afford to buy them new ones, I will scour my children's closets to find some that would fit.  Believe me, there was a time when I was in the same situation and some one came to my rescue!

Even when we don't seem to have anything to offer, we can reach deep and find something.  Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 8:2-4, "For in a severe test of affliction, their abundance of joy and their extreme poverty have overflowed in a wealth of generosity on their part. For they gave according to their means as I can testify, and beyond their means of their own accord, begging us earnestly for the favor of taking part in the relief of the saints." (ESV)  Even though trials and afflictions hit, these people kept their joy and even gave abundantly where it was needed.  They went above and beyond of what they actually had and, yet, they were excited about it!  I have no doubt that God met the needs of these generous people!

The woman in Proverbs 31 knew this principle and practiced it.  It was probably not easy and consumed some of the limited time she had with her family, but she knew the importance of giving to those in need.  I believe that, after it was all said and done, she had a feeling of contentment, knowing that she had changed the life of somebody who desperately needed it.  What more could you and I do with the many resources we have at hand in today's world?  What a great thing, to help someone without wanting anything in return!

Help us, Lord, to live an unselfish life and to try to be more like you!  Help us to understand the principle of  "It is more blessed to give than to receive."  (Acts 20:35, KJV)

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"She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.  She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple."  Proverbs 31:21-22

As I was researching these verses and studying out different translations for the word "scarlet," my first thought was Why would color matter in the cold.  It doesn't.  If you study further, you will find that a better translation for that word would be "double thickness."  According to the Contemporary Jewish Bible, it translates "doubly clothed,"  which makes more sense.  This godly woman prepares her household for the weather.  She makes sure that they have the proper attire to weather the elements.

When we read verse 22, it follows along with verse 21 in that the word "tapestry" refers to bed coverings or quilts. She not only prepares her family for the elements, but her home, as well.  Her family feels comfortable when they are there.

The second part of this verse refers to the way this wonderful, godly woman dresses.  Now, when you look at the verse, it translates "fine linen and purple," which refers to the finest clothing.  I believe it is not necessarily talking about the expense of the clothes, but rather how she wears them.  She represents her husband and wants him to be proud of her. She would not be scantily cloud or dress in a way to offend him or others.  (I truly believe this is also referring to the church as the bride of Christ, who is her husband, in a spiritual sense.  The Proverbs 31 woman is an example for us to follow as Christians,  female or male.)  It is not only her clothing, but her demeanor and attitude that she wears that should befit a Christian.

So, how does this pertain to us today? I realize we live in a different world then they did in Jesus' time, but the principles are still the same.  We are to take care of our home and families.  They should be our number one priority. It is an important calling and we should never be ashamed of that.  We should make our husbands proud and never try to give a bad impression of him by the way we dress and act.  Our behavior should be fitting a godly woman who loves the Lord and displays that in all aspects of her life.

I realize that most of this study pertains to married women who have homes and children.  However, the Proverbs 31 woman can be an example to every woman.  You may not be married, or maybe you are married but have no children.  Either way, you can be a light to others around you by following the example of this lady.  Your attitude and demeanor are seen by many on a daily basis.  Let them see Jesus through you.  This is something each and everyone of us can aspire to in our lives.

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"Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. 
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness."
 Proverbs 31:25-26

I wish I could write so much more on Proverbs 31, but, as I have been trying to do, I will keep it short.  Or, as short as it can be.  But there is so much more depth that can be found in this chapter!!!  There are parallels to this wise woman and the church today that will have to be saved for another day!  So, let's continue.  

In verse 25, the author is not referring to her clothing in the literal sense, but her demeanor and attitude.  She is a strong person and carries herself well.  She respects herself and those around her. She meets every day with a smile, regardless of the situations that occur.  Okay, I'm going to be real here. I have a big problem with this because I am an emotional person and wear mine on my sleeves. I am not saying I am correct in this, just that I need help in this area.  When situations or circumstances occur that may not always bring about pleasant outcomes, I tend to get a little frantic and frenzied. (Thus, the name of my blog!)  However, the Lord has helped me over the years and I believe that, if we are sincere, he can help each of us "in whatsoever state we are, to be content." (Philippians 4:11)

Now, verse 26 is something, I believe, we all need help in conquering, some more than others.  How many of us haven't opened our mouth only to try and catch the words that go flying out of it?  Yes, I am guilty! When she opens her mouth, it is with wisdom and kindness.  I'm sure she may have wanted to tell that person off who pushed their shopping cart in front of hers during market day.  Or, maybe someone said something that really didn't come out right and she took offense right away, but she kept her mouth shut.  I know I'm stepping on some toes now...mine included!!!  Wow!!!  If I had a penny for every time that wisdom and kindness did not come out of my mouth, what a rich woman I would be!  This is another virtue that I am working on, with the Lord's help.  My husband actually said he has noticed a difference over the course of our marriage and how God has really helped me in this area.  So, there is hope!!

Don't be disheartened if you feel less than equal to this lady.  She had her struggles, too, and I'm sure the Lord had to help her in other areas of her life.  Just know that he that "began a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ." (Philippians 1:6)  He is faithful and will help us, if we are sincere when seeking him!  Take each day as it comes and watch what He will do!


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"She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.  Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.  Proverbs 31: 27-28

This is an often quoted verse, especially on Mother's Day, especially the part that reads, "Her children arise up and call her blessed." (I actually used it in my last post.) However, I decided to look in depth at this and read some other translations.  My favorite is from The Message translation:

"She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, and keeps them all busy and productive.  Her children respect and bless her; her husband joins in with words of praise."

So, now we have another element to this lady's virtue.  Not only does she keep busy and work hard, but she teaches her children to do the same thing!!!  She teaches them to be busy and productive!!  Now, we can all agree that we've ran into young people who are pampered and spoiled and when they say, "Jump," their parents ask, "How high?"  I am not a fan of this type of parenting.  Neither were my parents.  One thing that they taught me that has never left me is a strong work ethic. For me, there is always something to be done. My children know this, too.  They know to clean their rooms, make their beds, do the dishes, vacuum, etc.
(Let me insert a disclaimer here, though.  This does not mean our children are our  personal servants and they do not need to have fun.  It means that we teach our children to be responsible but allow them to be children. They need to have fun and just be kids. Not only is that healthy, but it provides a balance in their lives that they take with them when they get older and move away from the nest.)

When you read The Message translation, note how her children still respect her after she has taught them the value of work?  You have heard it several times, but I will say it again.  Our children do not need more friends, they need parents.  God has called us to "train up our children in the way they should go, so when they are old, they will not depart from it."  (Proverbs 22:6)  Even though they don't want to admit this, our children desire us to take the lead and show them how to behave and act responsibly.  They want our guidance so they will be equipped to function in this world.  They want us to watch out for them and to lift them up when they fall or make mistakes.  (Okay, this was a parenting freebie, so take it for what it's worth.)

Because of this wise woman's hard work and care for her family,  her husband's respect for her grows.   He respects her for taking the initiative and being the source of strength to not only him, but to their children. He can see the fruit of her labor in the way his children act and behave. Her actions have brought peace to their home.  

It may seem like an impossible feat, but we can take this godly lady's example and apply it to our own lives. It may be a work in progress, but with patience and prayer, we can start being the example to our children and others right now.

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"Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.  Giver her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates."  Proverbs 31: 29-31


At the conclusion of my study of the Proverbs 31 woman, I want to pay special attention to verses 29 and 30.  

In verse 29, "daughters is referring to "women."  The NIV reads, “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."

The writer was comparing her to other ladies who have done well, but, regardless of how hard they tried, they could not measure up to this hardworking lady. I do not believe it means that they are not godly women, but, perhaps, they did not give their all in everything they did.  It is so important for us to always do our best, no matter what it is we are doing. Colossians 3:23, "And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men." Regardless of whether we are washing dishes and changing dirty diapers, or the CEO of a huge corporation, we need to accomplish the tasks set before us as if it is directly to our Lord.  In his eyes, we are all equal and there is no room for jealousy or complaining.  (That's another study for another time.)

Moving onto verse 30, the NIV reads like this, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." 

All of us have met beautiful people who look like they had just walked out of a fashion magazine.  However, as soon as they open their mouths to speak, all of the rottenness and nastiness on the inside comes pouring out.  No matter how great and "put together" they look, nobody wants to be around them.  On the other hand, we've all met those people who may not dress in designer clothes, seem a little frazzled and stressed, and aren't exactly the epitome of beauty, as the world deems them.  But, oh, how refreshing their spirit and attitude!!! Such beauty on the inside comes pouring out, that you forget how they are "supposed" to look.   Their actions and words speak volumes as to the sweet spirit within.  

God has called us each to a higher purpose, but it is so imperative that we keep a good attitude and right spirit. Nobody wants to be around a moody, bitter person.  Ask the Lord to keep your attitude right and to be a light to draw others, not the darkness that repels.  We should revere the things of God, not mock them or forsake them.  Our first priority should be living for him.  

The last verse, verse 31, sums up the whole chapter in a nutshell.  Her actions speak louder than words.  She does not have to boast of her works because they will be seen.  Her meek spirit will shine through and others will give her the praise and honor that she deserves.  She will be recognized, even by people with high positions and callings.  

Remember, God has called each of us to a higher purpose and what we do is so very important!!!  We do not need to worry about what man thinks about us, but if what we are doing is pleasing to the Lord.  We will reap what we sow.  Let's plant only the right things and let others see our example.  Be the lady that God has called you to be!  Pray for strength during this journey and know that you will be blessed!!!  

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